I’m not really sure why I’m writing something so personal. Mostly I have a lot of anxious thoughts that I need to get out of my head and nobody to talk to. This seems like the only place where I can turn. December has been one hell of an anxious month. It all started a couple days after the month began, when this really kind person that I met on Twitter blocked me on Twitter and Instagram for an unknown reason. I was, and still am, devastated. If past experience is any indicator, I’ll probably always be devastated. It definitely makes you feel like a failure when you meet someone that you’re interested in building a friendship with and then they decide to block you and cut you out of their life. The anxiety was so bad this particular time I spent nearly the whole week in bed and barely able to eat anything (saltine crackers were my savior) because my stomach was doing anxiety gymnastics. I didn’t, and currently still don’t, understand why I got blocked because me and this person have always been really nice to each other. Although I have a theory that it’s a misunderstanding because those happen to me a lot (more on that later).
I think there’s probably two reasons why it hurts so much. First, I really wanted, and still hope to, become friends with this incredibly kind person. I’ve never met anyone else that lives so close to me and I am so hopeful that I can maybe finally make a friend that I can actually leave my house and go hang out with. The other reason it hurts so much is that because of my loneliness and lack of friends, I get clingy when someone is nice to me because I don’t want to lose that person and that niceness. Someone on Twitter (that is also autistic) tweeted something about this. I’ll include their tweet and a couple other relevant tweets at the bottom of this post.
I just wish that, as an autistic person, trying to make friends was not so difficult. Unfortunately, communication is complex and confusing thing, and the communication difficulties between autistic people and non-autistic people just causes this to be a frustrating challenge. One of the biggest frustrations is that I (as an autistic person) will do or say something with the INTENT of being nice. But the other person (as a non-autistic person) in the conversation will misunderstand my intent and assume I’m being rude, creepy, weird, or whatever. It sucks to have someone think that your intent is different from what it actually is.
I think I’ve rambled enough and hopefully gotten what I need to get out of my head. It’s probably best for me to end this. Maybe I’ll go watch Netflix or play a video game to try to get my mind onto something else…
Yeah, I think it stems from the fact I was largely hated throughout my school life, so now anyone who says or does anything nice I now cling onto.— Skip (@KiwiCheeseLive) December 22, 2017
If you have an issue with me/something I've said, PLEASE come to me and talk with me, I won't be angry, I wanna learn how to better myself— Skip (@KiwiCheeseLive) September 30, 2017
However many people see me this way because I'm very blunt and honest. This is because between Autistic people this is considered polite for the most part. Conversation is often complex and confusing, so we keep it honest, blunt and to the point— Skip (@KiwiCheeseLive) December 22, 2017
Being direct is polite amongst autistics we prefer people be direct with us. Non-autistic people are indirect - autistic people have trouble with this. Why is it rude to be direct? Why is it that non-autistics won't accept how autistic people communicate? #actuallyautistic— NeuroDivergent Rebel (they/them/Xe/Xem) 🧠 🏳️🌈 (@NeuroRebel) December 4, 2017
33) Recently I've been thinking a lot about who my real friends are. Truth is, I have no clue. Anything I do or say I lose someone I respect— Skip (@KiwiCheeseLive) October 11, 2017
I just don't know what's so awful about me that this keeps on happening. How do I fix my friends going away? How do I fix myself for them?— Skip (@KiwiCheeseLive) May 1, 2018
It hurts knowing there are so many people I love and respect that hate my guts.— Skip (@KiwiCheeseLive) October 7, 2017
I’m autistic, here’s how to be friends with me https://t.co/WynoZhtBwf— NeuroDivergent Rebel (they/them/Xe/Xem) 🧠 🏳️🌈 (@NeuroRebel) March 29, 2018